Last week, I finally returned to yoga after more than a month-long hiatus. I didn't want to miss, but some things came up that took precedence. Life got really busy, as it often does, but I won't bore you with my reasons (a.k.a. excuses). : ) Before that break, I had been doing yoga faithfully for a few months and loving it! Going back in last week, I was excited and looking forward to it. I … [Read more...]
Codependency
October 17, 2011 by
Many people have asked me about the differences between dependence, codependence and interdependence. I once came across a picture of various Saguaro cacti that depicted this beautifully, but I can't seem to find it anymore. So, I'll try to describe it here. Dependence, codependence and interdependence Dependence is a state in which one person relies on another for support in some … [Read more...]
Assertiveness
October 11, 2011 by
There are many aspects to assertiveness training. First and foremost, assertiveness is not to be confused with aggressiveness. I say that being assertive splits the difference between being passive and being aggressive. Being assertive simply means standing up for yourself, not in a rude, mean or domineering way but, rather, in a calm, direct way. When we are not assertive, we often allow … [Read more...]
Patterns
October 3, 2011 by
Patterns are all around us, in both nature and human nature. When we are not naive to them, they can show us beauty or a master plan, they can help us discern whether to be in relationship with a given person, they can help us see whether we need to make behavioral or perceptual changes and so on. When talking to people about looking for patterns in the behavior of others, I take a little … [Read more...]
Perfectionism
September 18, 2011 by
If true evil does exist, one of its forms is perfectionism. Ingrained early, perfectionism is time-consuming, exhausting and frequently counter-productive. It is self-destructive, causes a great deal of angst and is a set up for failure. Perfectionistic tendencies can make even simple tasks seem daunting. Complex tasks, then, can create a feeling of being overwhelmed. This overwhelm can … [Read more...]
Addiction and Its Vices
September 11, 2011 by
Originally meaning "failing or defect," the opposite of virtue, vice has come to mean "bad habit." The play on words in the title for this blog is fully intentional to try to draw attention to the distinction between the two. Some say an addiction is the same as a vice. Maybe it’s only a nuance, but I see a difference between them. That is, a vice is the subject of addiction, while addiction … [Read more...]
